Posts Tagged ‘wedding planning’
Real Talk: You got this.
Posted on: November 17, 2010
I bet you’re wondering what I mean when I put in the subject line “You got this.” “You got this” is referring to the fact that you have more things in place than you think. That you’re probably more ready for your wedding than you think and everything is going to be fine.
I can’t tell you how many times that I read online either on twitter or a blog about a Bride being overwhelmed and buried under a mountain of DIY projects, family issues, and the list goes on. I’ve been there, so I totally know what you mean. Everyone goes through it and trust me, you are NOT a bridezilla for feeling that way.
I know, I know, it’s easier for me to say such a thing, but let me tell you what happened to me and maybe it will make you believe that it can happen to all of us.
It was two weeks away from our wedding when the hubs had to go to a conference in San Francisco. When he had told me at first, it was a couple of months out before our wedding and I thought nothing about it. I was so sure that I would have it all done before then. Oh, how wrong I was. Time flew by and a couple of months ago became time for me to drop him off at the airport. That is when it hit me. This wave of unresolved DIY projects/mounting family issues that we had dealt with for the past year/prepping to move to another country had come crashing down. I was majorly effed.
While he was tooling around San Francisco for a couple of days, I rushed around town/crafted like a mad woman. It wasn’t until one day, when I had talked with the hubs on the phone and he was enjoying a nice beer with some friends, I lost it. Here he was enjoying himself and hanging out with friends, just having a good time. I was working my ass off to get everything done or just somewhat ok. We’re talking tears, some obscenities being screamed out, and a small tantrum that could rival to one of my cousin’s children’s tantrums. It was confirmed, I was a mess and I was completely overwhelmed.
I do want to say that it was at no time the fault of the hubs that he was stuck in San Francisco and was enjoying himself with friends. The problem was that I had no one to help me with all that stuff I had to do and I had bitten off more than I can chew. Yes, some DIY project could have been caboshed and I could have just told the rogue family members to just deal with what we had planned. But like most things, when it rains, it pours and it was definitely pouring in my world.
But what did I learn from it? I learned that even though that times seem tough, but you got this. Everything is going to be fine and things aren’t as tough as you think it really is. You can’t prepare for stuff that you don’t know is going to happen and you must deal with what’s going on at this moment. It’s going to be ok. Also, you’ve probably done everything you need to do. All the important stuff are booked like the venue, reception, etc. Details are awesome, but they aren’t everything and I will go into that in another post. The most important thing that needs to happen on your wedding day is you getting married and having the time of your life. The bottom line is that you got this and it’s going to be awesome.
So when times are tough and you feel overwhelmed by all the details, just say to yourself “You got this” and take a deep breath. Or have a margarita, that sometimes help as well. But I have faith in you that you’re a lot stronger than you think and your wedding is going to be awesome no. matter. what.
I don’t own an iPhone and I’m probably one of the few that doesn’t but I do own a iPod touch. I’m a hardcore Blackberry user and I am frustrated by a couple things with my iPod touch, but that’s a whole other situation and rant. The one thing about the iPhone/iPod Touch that makes it stand out is that it has apps. My BB has apps, but it’s just not the same and sometimes not as simple as a touch of my fat index finger to get things rolling. But there’s one app that made me wish that I had gotten my iPod touch earlier and it is My Wedding Concierge by the lovely Phyllis Cheung.
I’ll admit it. I’m a Jersey girl with a HUGE Type A personality. I’m a sassy passive aggressive operator that up until a couple a years ago (like when I met the hubs), was an organizational machine. I’m that chick that makes a TON of folders on my computer and labels everything like a mad woman. I’m always on a mission, even if it’s not important. My kryptonite to my organizational mayhem? A California boy that doesn’t eat fast, slowly meanders through streets/stores and lives with the thought that there’s just no rush to do anything. Mind you, I’m still sassy and slightly passive aggressive, but not as “Type A” as I used to be. But planning our wedding was a challenge and my “Type A” personality came out of the woodwork after being suppressed after so many years. This is why I wished that I had the app My Wedding Concierge when I was planning my wedding.
My Wedding Concierge is an app and a website that organizes and helps you find vendors in your local or destination area for your wedding. It takes your (or where you’re getting married at) zip code and puts you in touch with vendors that you are looking for. Remember, how I said that it organizes you? Well, with a quick tap, you could store all your wedding information on your iPhone/iPod touch with ease. I’m sure you’re thinking that there are places that already do such things but to be honest, not as well as My Wedding Concierge does.
I’m sure you iPhone/iPod touch users have downloaded many apps that dictate this type of organization. But if you’re looking for something that will keep you seriously organized for your wedding and give you suggestions to vendors that are in your local area, this is your app. I bet you’re wondering if I tried it. I did even though it was after the fact. So, curious about it one night, I downloaded it and tooled around it. I love how easy it was to enter in your information and all the vendors that had popped up in the local area where I got married.
In addition to the convenient app on the iPhone/iPod Touch and there’s the website that if you don’t have an iPhone/iPod Touch, this would be a good alternative to the app.
Also, did I mention that this could be an inspiration guide? There’s a section that will take you to indexed blog rolls of popular wedding blogs that you could read at your leisure. Stuck at the doctors waiting to get called and wished that you had something to read that wasn’t covered in tons of germs? That’s precious time being wasted that you could be oogling at beautiful weddings. Phyllis also keeps a blog as well and you can check it out here.
So, if you’re a bride that is freaking out about all the little details and is looking for something to organize your totally rocking wedding, download or go to My Wedding Concierge. Trust me, you’ll thank me later.
Before I end this post, I just want to give a shout out to Astrid Mueller, who designed the lovely woman logo. She’s an illustrator extraordinaire and if you’re looking for a unique design for your wedding invitations or anything, hit her up. Did I mention that she’s awesome? Well, she’s awesome. Check her out and My Wedding Concierge.
There’s a void that happens. Your life goes from being busy all the time to not and finding yourself strangely wondering what you should do with yourself.
If you’re wondering why it’s called Bridal Rehab, it is because I have turned into a full on wedding blog addict. My addiction started a year ago when I was planning my wedding, only to find myself looking through 50 wedding websites a day. I looked at these websites at work and at home. I even started a blog to be a guest blogger at one of them.
Did I get the guest blogging gig?
Nope. I was rejected.
Am I bitter? No way. I still read that blog on a daily basis.
I bet you’re wondering right now if I had the wedding that I had wanted. I did in some ways, but not in all. I think the thing about planning a wedding is all the beautiful things that one can do to make it special. I had a wonderful wedding. I don’t think it could have turned out any better.
Through this blog, I plan to subside my addiction to wedding planning by putting together ideas and things that might inspire you for your wedding. Offer some advice from my experiences to help yours run smoothly. Sure, there are TONS of blogs out there that do the same, but I don’t think it hurts to get more opinions.
Thanks for coming by and I hope you like my ramblings.
